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It’s a spoon thing PDF Print
Monday, September 24, 2012 12:37 PM

I read something on Facebook Friday that really struck a chord with me. Some of you may already know what I’m talking about: The Spoon Theory by Christine Miserandino.

Christine and her friend were sitting in a diner eating when her longtime friend asked her what it was like to be sick. What was it like — how did it feel — to have lupus.

After some thought, Christine gathered up all the spoons from their and nearby tables and gave them to her friend. She said, “These are your spoons. This is all you have.”

Last Updated on Wednesday, February 27, 2013 3:21 PM
Head uptown for down-home fun PDF Print
Monday, September 17, 2012 9:47 AM

I can’t think of a Friday night in the newsroom I enjoy more than Canal Days Friday night.
We throw open the windows and listen to the band and the crowd and it makes me smile because they sound like they are having so much fun.

Canal Days is a lot more than what you can do. It’s also about who you see. It’s great to find old friends and reminisce while enjoying a carnival atmosphere. New friends are also a possibility.

Today’s schedule is packed with activities for all ages, including a pancake and sausage breakfast, bingo, the quilt show, the ArtFest exhibit as well as the art show, a bake sale, the pet parade, kiddie tractor pull, tractor show, a Queen’s Tea, a cruise-in and more.
Young artists will fill the sidewalks with chalk drawings and anglers will vie for the top prizes in the fishing derby.

New this year is Country Basket Bingo with some amazing prizes. I played Purse Bingo last year and can I share something you won’t tell? I am just no good at bingo and then I get a little cranky when I don’t win. I know the odds are stacked against you because there are so many who come out and play to support Canal Days. However, I figure I have just as much as everyone else — and yet I never win. Harrumph!

Canal Days is so many things and different things to each person.
It’s a chance to see people you perhaps don’t get to talk to any other time. Former residents often travel back to Delphos for what is considered by many a sort of homecoming.

Businesses and clubs rally to make the event special and more engaging than the year before.

The “Toast” and “Battle” just keep getting bigger and better.

There’s good food and good conversation.

The kids get a chance to blow off some steam and run around like spider monkeys on a bad sugar binge. There’s also a lot of organized fun to keep them focused.

What more could you ask for in the last premier festival of the year? Well, if you come up with something, pass it along to the committee. I’m sure they’ll try to fit it in if possible. They are some amazing people backed by awesome volunteers. Give them some backing of your own.

Last Updated on Tuesday, November 06, 2012 4:23 PM
Five down and counting PDF Print
Saturday, September 08, 2012 12:31 AM

Seems like just a short time ago I was juggling, work, play and planning a wedding reception. Now we’ve tucked five years under our belt and feel pretty good about things. What we find fantastic about it is that we’ve been together for 16 years. That’s a long time, I don’t care who’s counting.

I’ve found the secret to a good marriage is knowing when to listen and when to talk. That doesn’t mean I always do it but now that it’s in black and white, I guess he knows now, too.

The secret within the secret is picking your battles carefully. Is it really that big a deal he throws his washcloths on the floor instead of hanging them up? Well, yes, it is. However, it takes a lot less time to hang it up than tracking him down, showing him the error of his ways and going over the whole silly thing again. I’m pretty sure he heard me the first time and has made his choice.

I know there are things that I do that drive him absolutely crazy. For example: I generally have my stuff in a bucket at work but I’m a hot mess at home. Things aren’t as tidy as they could be and I know, I know, I left a water glass on the headboard in the bedroom — again.


The last five years have been filled with challenges, good times, sorrow and love. Seems like a pretty good mix to keep you connected and humble at the same time. The last 16 years have had a whole lot of those and more. A lot can happen in 16 years — good and bad. What doesn’t kill one of you — or both — makes you stronger and closer.
Here is some marriage advice from one of my faves, John Tesh:

— Follow the 5-to-1 rule. Studies show that the happiest couples do 5 positive things for every negative one. That’s because we have a negativity bias. Which means bad interactions weigh more heavily on our minds than good ones. So you need far more good things in your relationship, to counteract the occasional bad thing. So, for every eye roll, throw in 5 smiles, shoulder touches, or compliments.

— Family expert Stephanie Coontz says that husbands and wives should both work at least part-time. Why? In areas where 70 percent of married women work outside the home, the divorce rate dropped because sharing household chores boosts couple satisfaction. On the flip side, Coontz says couples following the old-fashioned marriage model, where the man works and the wife stays home, are less likely to feel satisfied and more likely to get divorced.
Rats. Guess that means no bon bons and soap operas for me. Oh, well. C’est la vie.

Last Updated on Tuesday, November 06, 2012 4:24 PM
Another year, another… PDF Print
Saturday, September 01, 2012 12:53 AM

Another year has passed and another candle was added to my cake. I don’t mind. I still enjoy birthdays and look forward to them. The alternative is just no good. Not reaching the next birthday, I mean.

I looked back on the year and have some regrets, some triumphs, good memories and a few things I wish never happened. It was the usual year. I made my share of mistakes and hopefully learned from each and every one.

My only goal is to grow as a person, as a human being, as a wife, as a mother, as a sister, as a daughter and as a friend. Some areas came out OK; others still need work. There’d be no point if we were already perfect when we got here. Where do you go from there? What would be the point?

I pretty much learn something new every day. It may not be earth-shattering or a mind-blowing revelation but I learn, nonetheless.
I know the capacity for human beings to be kind and cruel never ceases to amaze me. We read about it every day. I just keep hoping the kindness outweighs the other.

I know that if we don’t strive to be nice to each other and look out for each other somewhere down the line, it’s trouble for us all.
It’s easy to get caught up in the rush of everyday life and responsibilities and let time get away and not stop and do the little things we need to like call our parents or stop by a friend’s home just to chat. We get busy and loved ones hear from us less than either of us would like. We say there’s no time but we have more control over that than we either let ourselves believe or allow.

I do know that the years seem to go by pretty quickly and everyone who is older than I am says it only gets worse the more candles that are on that cake.

School has started and soon it will be Halloween. Then comes Thanksgiving, Christmas, the new year starts and so on and so forth. We all know how it goes, we just need to learn to slow it down.

Well, would you look at that. It’s the day after my birthday already. Only 364 days to go. I’m sure it will be here before I know it. I hope I listen to my own advice and find that balance between the hustle of everyday life and those moments we spend with others that get us through the rest.

I know I’m going to enjoy the weekend with my husband and friends and make some of those memories I was talking about.

Last Updated on Tuesday, November 06, 2012 4:24 PM
My summer vacation ... PDF Print
Monday, August 27, 2012 11:31 AM

The nights are cooler and the sounds of a high school football game fill the air.
It must be the fall. Well, not really but for all intents and purposes, summer is over.

Last Updated on Wednesday, February 27, 2013 3:21 PM

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