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Mary Ellen Hemker Deffenbaugh PDF Print
Tuesday, February 25, 2014 9:42 PM

April 1, 1933-Feb. 24, 2014


Mary Ellen Hemker Deffenbaugh, 80, of Delphos died at 9 a.m. Monday at her residence.

She was born April 1, 1933, in Delphos to Wilbur A. and Marcella A. (Utrup) Mueller, who preceded her in death.

On Nov. 27, 1954, she married James C. Hemker, who preceded her in death on Feb. 6, 1990.

She then married Thomas E. Deffenbaugh on June 6, 1998, who preceded her in death on Oct. 2, 2012.

Survivors include a son, Kevin Hemker, Ph.D. (Maria Olivia-Hemker, M.D.) of Baltimore, Md.; stepson, Kurt Deffenbaugh of Fort Wayne, Ind.; daughter, Karen Hemker (Dave Klaus) of Delphos; three brothers, Wilbur Jr. (Inge) Mueller of Denver, Colo., David (Patricia) Mueller of Las Cruces, N.M., and Daniel (Barbara) Mueller of Port Clinton; brother-in-law, William Hemker; sister-in-law, Caroline Mueller; four grandchildren, Daniel Warnement II, Brandon Warnement, James and Michael Hemker; and two stepgrandchildren, Emma and Annie Deffenbaugh.

She was also preceded in death by four infant sons who died at birth, James (1955), David (1956), Donald (1959) and Roger (1985) Hemker; brother, Thomas Mueller and twin sisters, Mary Margaret and Mary Josephine Mueller (1932).

She worked various jobs but was primarily a homemaker who devoted herself to her family and service to others.

She was a lifelong and active member of St. John the Evangelist Catholic Church, where she attended Mass regularly, was a Eucharistic minister, served on St. John’s School Council, once co-chaired St. John’s Fall Festival, was a member of CD of A, counted money and participated in Bible studies.

In addition to her activities at St. John’s parish, she volunteered at and served on the Women’s Auxiliary Board at St. Rita’s Medical Center and volunteered at Delphos Ambulatory Care and for the Van Wert County Board of Elections.

She loved to play cards, read and was an adventurous traveler, having visited 48 of the 50 states and many of the countries in Europe.

Mass of Christian Burial will be at 11 a.m. Friday at St. John’s the Evangelist Catholic Church, with Father David Reinhart officiating. Burial will be at St. John’s Cemetery.

Visitation will be from 2-8 p.m. Thursday at Harter and Schier Funeral Home, where a Parish Wake will be at 7:30 p.m.

Memorial contributions may be made to St. John’s Parish Foundation.

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