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On the Other Hand — Sometimes enough is enough PDF Print
Saturday, December 21, 2013 9:00 PM

This is a reprise of one of my favorite columns.

As we visit with relatives and long-lost friends at this holiday season. “Merry Christmas” and “Happy New Year” will be said a zillion times.

It will become so natural it will roll off our tongues without so much as a thought.

 

Well, I’m not going to wish you a merry Christmas. After reading this again, I am confident that what we all need is to wish each other “enough.”

 

So, to you my faithful readers, “I wish you enough.”

“I wish you enough!”©

By Bob Perks

Recently I overheard a father and daughter in their last moments together. They had announced her departure and standing near the security gate, they hugged and he said, “I love you. I wish you enough.” She in turn said, “Daddy, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Daddy.”

They kissed and she left. He walked over toward the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see he wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on his privacy, but he welcomed me in by asking, “Did you ever say goodbye to someone knowing it would be forever?”

“Yes, I have,” I replied. Saying that brought back memories I had of expressing my love and appreciation for all my Dad had done for me. Recognizing that his days were limited, I took the time to tell him face to face how much he meant to me.

So I knew what this was man experiencing.

“Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever goodbye?” I asked.

“I am old and she lives much too far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is, the next trip back would be for my funeral,” he said.

“When you were saying goodbye I heard you say, ‘I wish you enough.’ May I ask what that means?”

He began to smile. “That’s a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone.” He paused for a moment and looking up as if trying to remember it in detail, he smiled even more. “When we said ‘I wish you enough,’ we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them,” he continued and then turning toward me he shared the following as if he were reciting it from memory.

“I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.

I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.

I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.

I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.

I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.

I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.

I wish enough ‘Hello’s’ to get you through the final ‘Goodbye’.”

He then began to sob and walked away.

Last Updated on Saturday, December 21, 2013 3:29 PM
 

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