September 1, 2014

Subscriber Login



‘How Can I Help My Friends Realize Their Value?’ PDF Print E-mail
Wednesday, June 19, 2013 12:20 AM

BY TIFFANY BASINGER

Delphos Optimist Club Essay Contest winner

 

The girl sat in her room crying, wondering when it would all stop. When will she be able to go to school and focus on being a good student instead of hoping the outfit she wore is up to the standard of all the other girls? When will her mom stop telling her how worthless she is, but instead tell her how much she is loved? When will she stop having to fight for acceptance and not have to struggle to keep it? When will people stop judging her by the kind of car she can afford, and start seeing the beauty that’s inside of her? When will someone tell her how valuable she is? Far too many teenagers end their lives thinking thoughts similar to these. There are many different reasons teenagers choose to end their life, but most all of them have one thing in common. They buy into the lie that they have absolutely no value. They believe that no one needs them and they don’t have anyone or anything to live for. I don’t think I’m alone in saying that this needs to change. One way I can help change this is by helping my friends to realize how much value they have.

Everyone has innumerable value whether they know it or not. We were all made with value especially by our creator. One way I can help my friends realize this value is by letting them know how much of a difference they make. Sometimes people go through life thinking they aren’t important and things would be better if they were never born. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. Everyone was born for a reason. No one should ever think they are a worthless accident. I can’t think of a more perfect example of this than the classic Christmas movie, It’s A Wonderful Life. In this touching story, George Bailey, with the help of an angel, is forced to temporarily live in a world where he was never born, after he wishes he had never been born. Clarence, the angel, shows George where the people in his current life would be, had he never existed. Probably one of the hardest discoveries is when George is told his brother and many others are dead. As George finds his brother’s tombstone, Clarence explains to him that Harry, George’s brother, drowned at the age of nine. When George existed, he actually saved Harry. Frustrated, George replies, (1) “That’s a lie! Harry Bailey went to war! He got the Congressional Medal of Honor! He saved the lives of every man on that transport!” Then Clarence tells him, “Every man on that transport died. Harry wasn’t there to save them, because you weren’t there to save Harry.”

You see, everyone is extremely valuable in this world. If George was never born, he would have never saved his brother from drowning and he would have died, in turn resulting in the deaths of every single soldier on that military transport. We all matter. We all make a difference. I need to let my friends know this in order for them to see their value. The Bible states we are fearfully and wonderfully made. I would tell my friends that each one of us is a wonderful being created in the image of a God who put value and purpose into us. We have to be strong and believe in ourselves. I can tell my friends over and over how much value they have, but they have to start telling themselves that they are worth something. Most of the time, it is psychological. If you tell yourself you don’t have any value, then you will really start to believe it. If you tell yourself you are valuable, then you will become valuable! I can help my friends out with this by telling them how valuable they are to me. It becomes much easier to believe in yourself, when someone else believes in you first.

I believe value and purpose are very closely related. If you can believe you have value, then you can also believe you have a purpose. In the movie Hugo, value and purpose are uniquely shown. Hugo Cabret states this: (2) “I’d imagine the whole world was one big machine. Machines never come with any extra parts, you know. They always come with the exact amount they need. So I figured, if the entire world was one big machine, I couldn’t be an extra part. I had to be here for some reason. And that means you have to be here for some reason too.”

I couldn’t think of any better ways to let my friends know how much value they have. After all, they are my friends; of course they have value!

(1)Capra, Frank (Director). (1946). It’s A Wonderful Life [Film]. California: Liberty Films.

(2)Scorsese, Martin (Director). (2011). Hugo [Film]. Paramount Pictures, GK Films, and Infinitum Nihil.

 

Add comment


Security code
Refresh