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Monday, April 08, 2013 9:31 AM

I believe in karma. I believe in the difference between right and wrong. I believe in the kindness of strangers.

But most of all, I believe in good people.

I still believe they exist, even in a world that appears to become more cynical by the day. Despite this, I don’t trust the way I used to. I used to trust so much more openly than I do now. That was until I experienced, as we all have, the painful truth that there are people out there who act one way to your face and another way behind your back. Hypocritical people. I simply have no use for them.

I personally think it’s jealously and insecurity that’s responsible for these people acting like friends in person, yet talking badly about you to others when you’re not around. The funniest part to me is, especially with technology, do they think we won’t find out? It’s sad, really. But it’s also not even worth my time often to confront them. They’re obviously not real friends anyway; at least I know that now. The trust is gone. It just hurts to find out.

So why is trust so increasingly hard to find in today’s world? In a world in which “connecting” with others is supposedly easier than ever, why is forming a real, genuine, honest relationship so seemingly challenging? I just think with the more ways we have to connect, the less special the connections can become. Hand-written letters are a thing of the past. Even telephone calls and hearing the sound of a friend’s voice is becoming obsolete. Text messaging is convenient but hardly as sacred as a stamped, mailed letter, in my humble opinion.

We’ve stopped placing value on our correspondences. It’s easy to hide behind a computer and “say” whatever we want about anyone; who cares if it could hurt feelings? That seems to be the mentality of many people these days.

Well, I hope to never embrace that mentality. I hope to never stop sending my good friends cards in the mail, even if it’s not as often as it used to be. And I certainly hope to instill in my daughters the thinking that it’s not okay to talk badly about someone behind his or her back, especially when you’re being a friend in person. That’s just not cool. Ever.

It’s not too late to change, either. Maybe you are guilty of being a hypocritical friend. It’s never too late to start being a good person. You can start today. That’s one great thing about technology. You can become a better person in a shorter amount of time. You can do it right now.

Whether you’re guilty of being mean behind someone’s back, or you’ve just slacked on being a good friend, you can remedy anything, anytime you want. Even if you don’t have the money for a stamp, a heartfelt electronic message goes a long way if you normally don’t bother to send anything at all. Baby steps.

In this world, I believe you get what you give. And I feel so much better about myself when I give than when I receive. So I’m off to send a few messages to some great friends who deserve it. Friends I’d never dream of bad-mouthing even if I’d have the chance.

What will you throw out into the universe today? How will you make some deserving people feel good about themselves? You can change the course of history. It starts with you.



Sara Berelsman lives in Fort Jennings with her husband and their two daughters. You can check out her blog at


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